This video details everything you have to do to score with the ladies:
...Wow did you really fall for that?
Well normally I’d kick back and wait for the eventual, “That’s not Soulja Boy Barney” comments but this is on the front page and I need to make sure it’s suitable. Don’t worry! There is a real article coming, and a very worthwhile one at that! So quit your rustling and read on.
Are we good now? Awesome. Now then, I imagine most of you testosterone-fueled members clicked here hoping for some holy grail of relationship advice. Some of you might already have a babe in your arms and just clicked this to see what wonders awaited you. The rest of you are probably women. Hmm…I dunno if this is the article for you ladies…ah what the hell; read it if you want. Getting back to the point, it’s so hard to find good advice for males concerning relationships. The Internet boasts a plethora of advice. Some of it’s good, some of it’s bad, and some of it comes from AskMen contributors who think that a good put-down goes a long way.
But why do we turn to the Internet of all places? Well most of the time, it offers quick, easily-applicable advice. When prepping yourselves for a date I imagine a few of you will Google something like, “What kind of fragrance should I wear?” The insecurities take hold. You want to ensure that nothing goes wrong and she likes what she sees, so you look for that little extra step that will earn her approval, and it’s certainly understandable to feel a little intimidated. You really want to get somewhere with this woman and you want her to like you for who you are without having to put up a façade.
However, some men are just so wrong that not even an hour of browsing date tips will work. Quite a shame, really. Remember that Tex Avery cartoon where the primitive form of getting a woman was bopping her with a club and dragging her home by the hair? Yeah, it was politically incorrect, but it sure as hell was funny and I bet some guys out there wish that was actually in style. (Still there, ladies?) Aside from it being funny though, it made an argument: man is the dominant species; and back then there was some degree of truth behind it. Take a look at the mid-20th century. The unspoken rule then was that women were the housewives and it was the men that did the real work. They were football-playing, drive-in-loving, T-bone-munching powerhouses. The women? Not so much.
So, that brings me back to1979 today. Society has practically transformed itself since the mid-1900s. Now women are earning more money than they ever did. More of them are entering college and assuming bigger roles in the family and household. We almost had a woman be a US president! This change has been a long time coming, and rightfully so. But has this change impacted how we men look at relationships? Maybe this isn’t a new trend but I’m seeing more and more blogs and editorials that speak, “WOMEN IN CONTROL”. Maybe this isn’t a new trend either but I’m seeing more and more guys giving women all the relationship power, both on television and in life. Is the playing field leveling out or is something off here? Have gender behaviors changed or is this a whole new beast?
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to promote TOTAL MALE DOMINANCE, nor am I trying to instigate a war between the two sexes. I’m simply pointing some food for thought here. Flipping through the Relationships thread here gives me some interesting insight on relationships (it also gives me the MAZZ0SCALE but let’s not talk about that), but it’s the sort of advice that requires time and training to develop. You can’t just search for it on the Internet, skim it over, and immediately apply it to your dates. It requires a change in mindset and attitude so that it becomes instinctive. But because all this important advice is all over the place and in some cases unorganized, finding the right stuff is difficult. It’s not all in the thread either. I’m fairly convinced that if you want to get better with the ladies and remove that “Single” status from your Facebook page, you need to use an entirely different medium for advice.
And that’s why in this article we’re going to talk about a book!
One day I aimlessly wandered into a thrift shop and on their $1 bookshelf I uncovered a rather interesting specimen:
Naturally when I uncovered interesting books like this I’ll stop, give it a little flip-through, and put it back. But I’d never come across a book on relationships before so I plopped down on a nearby armchair and opened up. I mean what the heck? For a one dollar-book I’m likely to find either something amazingly insightful or bizarrely awful. Oh Doc Love, grace me with your intellect! Show me the way of the woman!
Most dictionaries will cram columns of words into one page with short little sentences afterward, but The System is not most dictionaries. It’s a 200-page book with I’d say close to 200 definitions, roughly one definition per page. Some take up more than a page and others barely take up half. Also these aren’t exactly definitions per-say, they’re...well I’ll give you a quote.
It goes on for a few more paragraphs after that. This “definition” pretty much refers to Adam as “the first wimp”. The argument? Instead of refusing to take a bite of the apple, he fell for Eve’s looks and did as she said. An out-of-the-box thesis but nevertheless it does go on to make an interesting point: men shouldn’t drop to the floor and kiss the toes of every woman they see. Now granted Eve was the only woman in the world at the time and I’m certain God had a “Don’t Fuck the Animals” policy in the Garden but still, an important statement to keep in mind when dealing with women. Quite humorous, too.
Actually you know what? “Dictionary” isn’t a suitable label for this book. Doc Love expects anyone reading it to start from the beginning and work their way through, understanding each term written within. It’s more like an instruction manual of sorts, giving elaborate details on random relationship-related words and ways to apply them to meeting women. The front cover states “WHY DOES A WOMAN CHOOSE TO STAY WITH ONE MAN VERSUS ANOTHER?” This is a manual – a guide to the type of man that women prefer to be with. Or at least according to Doc Love.
Before each term, Doc Love gives three quotes from who I assume are his relatives from distant lands. Let’s see, we’ve got Fast Eddie Love, Sal “The Fish” Love, General Love, and Rabbi Love (there are plenty more but those ones stick out). There are even some Chinese proverbs, all of which have their sentences ending in “Grasshopper”, and some Apache proverbs which use no articles and implement a few Native American-sounding words. Somehow I can’t picture Jackie Chan saying something like, “Take two oxen to pull a wagon, Grasshopper”, but who am I to question a man whose entire family is named “Love”?
Now the way this book interprets the human psyche is through a measurement called “Interest Level”, which is half mathematical and half mental. To sum it up, Interest Level is the level of interest a woman has for a man and vice-versa, so if I were to walk up to a woman I’ve never met and she immediately high-tailed it to Cuba, that would probably be considered low Interest Level. Doc Love asks men to focus heavily on the woman’s IL, and the way to do that is through the words she says, the actions she makes, and her attitude in doing so. He also tells men to make sure their IL is lower than the woman’s, or at least seems like it, so that the woman can attempt to bring it up. It’s an unorthodox method, but there is purpose in it. See, in doc’s perspective it’s the woman that should be opening up to the man to enhance the relationship, not the other way around. He argues that the man groveling in front of the woman and pouring his emotions out is wrong, and it makes the woman lose respect for him. That means all those sappy soap operas with the men bawling on his knees before a woman give us the wrong example. Hell, I’m sure everyone knows that already. Right? …Right?
In no way does this book feel chauvinistic at all. There is genuine respect for both parties and Doc Love even believes women can use the book to gauge the status of her own relationship. The only real put down of women he uses is the term “Feministas”. Not feminists, Feministas. It’s a more romantic term that refers to feminists that believe their kind is truly the superior one. The term is used throughout the book and the doc isn’t afraid to sugarcoat it. On the other end, this guy isn’t afraid to get hard on men. He berates the ones that disobey his System and reiterates several times that the only way to win with the ladies is to read his book until it’s implanted in the mind. This is either encouragement to make their purchase of this book feel justified, motivation to keep reading, or both.
So we have Interest Level, strange proverbs, and nasty Feministas. We also have Cary Grant movies, left-wing extremist bashing, and flushing bad numbers down the toilet. What else does The System have to offer? Well another interesting and crucial tidbit to this book is the use of “Challenge”. This, according to Doc, is what women really want. It’s the almighty strength of the male and it gets a whopping three pages of discussion in this book. But what is it exactly? There’s probably a more concrete definition in the book but to define it myself: it’s holding back just enough, purposely staying aloof and appearing distant.
The purpose of Challenge is to get the woman to think about the man. To paraphrase from the book: when the man doesn’t call her in a week and she’s anticipating a call, she starts thinking about him more. That’s if she truly likes him. If she doesn’t, she forgets about him and the man saves himself for a woman that will actually contain interest.
Out of everything mentioned in this book, this concept of Challenge stuck out to me the most. It was the first time I’d seen such a tactic mentioned and it got me to thinking: When my relationships were working, was I doing this? And in what forms was I doing this? At that point, my Interest Level in The System was in the 90s.
As I said there are 200 pages in this book so I can’t mention everything in this analysis (at least not without typing out the whole damn book I think). But long story short, The System was one of the most intriguing dollar books I’d ever picked up, and I’d be damned if it didn’t get me thinking. In fact, it got me interested in this Doc Love character. Google tells me he’s one of the more famous and widely recognized love doctors out there. His writing is used on different websites and his book, which is actually valued at $100 on his website, has been in circulation for a long time.
Wait a second…$100? For this? I mean it is rather introspective but come on! That’s the price of a school textbook! I’m pretty sure dating books don’t go for that much on Amazon. Actually, how much do they go for? One sec…let’s see, “dating”, sort by “High to Low”…what?! WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?!
Luckily there is another way to get your Doc Love fix. He’s a frequently scheduled guest on a national radio show where he gets guys from all over the country to call in and ask for advice. Hearing his voice gives off the impression of the stern father we all had when growing up. It’s not soothing, but it’s not demeaning. He’s both critical and encouraging when it comes to his listeners and he’s not afraid to flat out say, “You messed up.” He’ll also find some examples of people who use and do not use his System, whether they know it or not. I’m sure if he ever heard “Grenade” by Bruno Mars he’d smash some cans about.
To conclude, if you men want to get better with women, you guys need to step your game up. I’m not going to tell you to shell out a Franklin to get this thing unless you want to (yeah, I wish it was cheaper too, but what can you really do about it?) but I will say it’s worth reading a few of Doc Love’s columns and listening to his show. He’s not perfect, and he does admit that, but I believe he’s onto something here and should probably be taken into consideration when it comes to improving your pickup skills. Or hey, maybe you’ll find his book at your own thrift shop! In fact, I’m declaring today “International Thrift Shop Day”. Each and every one of you must go into a thrift shop and buy something to celebrate the occasion.
No seriously, this is awesome! $100 worth of book! And for only a dollar! Nothing could be better than this!
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Oh…uh…
...Wow did you really fall for that?
Well normally I’d kick back and wait for the eventual, “That’s not Soulja Boy Barney” comments but this is on the front page and I need to make sure it’s suitable. Don’t worry! There is a real article coming, and a very worthwhile one at that! So quit your rustling and read on.
Are we good now? Awesome. Now then, I imagine most of you testosterone-fueled members clicked here hoping for some holy grail of relationship advice. Some of you might already have a babe in your arms and just clicked this to see what wonders awaited you. The rest of you are probably women. Hmm…I dunno if this is the article for you ladies…ah what the hell; read it if you want. Getting back to the point, it’s so hard to find good advice for males concerning relationships. The Internet boasts a plethora of advice. Some of it’s good, some of it’s bad, and some of it comes from AskMen contributors who think that a good put-down goes a long way.
But why do we turn to the Internet of all places? Well most of the time, it offers quick, easily-applicable advice. When prepping yourselves for a date I imagine a few of you will Google something like, “What kind of fragrance should I wear?” The insecurities take hold. You want to ensure that nothing goes wrong and she likes what she sees, so you look for that little extra step that will earn her approval, and it’s certainly understandable to feel a little intimidated. You really want to get somewhere with this woman and you want her to like you for who you are without having to put up a façade.
However, some men are just so wrong that not even an hour of browsing date tips will work. Quite a shame, really. Remember that Tex Avery cartoon where the primitive form of getting a woman was bopping her with a club and dragging her home by the hair? Yeah, it was politically incorrect, but it sure as hell was funny and I bet some guys out there wish that was actually in style. (Still there, ladies?) Aside from it being funny though, it made an argument: man is the dominant species; and back then there was some degree of truth behind it. Take a look at the mid-20th century. The unspoken rule then was that women were the housewives and it was the men that did the real work. They were football-playing, drive-in-loving, T-bone-munching powerhouses. The women? Not so much.
So, that brings me back to
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to promote TOTAL MALE DOMINANCE, nor am I trying to instigate a war between the two sexes. I’m simply pointing some food for thought here. Flipping through the Relationships thread here gives me some interesting insight on relationships (it also gives me the MAZZ0SCALE but let’s not talk about that), but it’s the sort of advice that requires time and training to develop. You can’t just search for it on the Internet, skim it over, and immediately apply it to your dates. It requires a change in mindset and attitude so that it becomes instinctive. But because all this important advice is all over the place and in some cases unorganized, finding the right stuff is difficult. It’s not all in the thread either. I’m fairly convinced that if you want to get better with the ladies and remove that “Single” status from your Facebook page, you need to use an entirely different medium for advice.
And that’s why in this article we’re going to talk about a book!
HEY! HEY! GET BACK HERE!
Ah shit. Okay how many of you are left? One…two...that’s it huh…okay fine! You two are awesome! I didn’t need all those idiots, just you guys. You’re my best friends. Yeah. You’re…you’re...*sniff*…I’m okay! I’m good! Anyways, the book…One day I aimlessly wandered into a thrift shop and on their $1 bookshelf I uncovered a rather interesting specimen:
The System by Doc Love.
Naturally when I uncovered interesting books like this I’ll stop, give it a little flip-through, and put it back. But I’d never come across a book on relationships before so I plopped down on a nearby armchair and opened up. I mean what the heck? For a one dollar-book I’m likely to find either something amazingly insightful or bizarrely awful. Oh Doc Love, grace me with your intellect! Show me the way of the woman!
Most dictionaries will cram columns of words into one page with short little sentences afterward, but The System is not most dictionaries. It’s a 200-page book with I’d say close to 200 definitions, roughly one definition per page. Some take up more than a page and others barely take up half. Also these aren’t exactly definitions per-say, they’re...well I’ll give you a quote.
Quote
Adam: Adam, the first Wimp, had his shot, missed it, and it’s been all down hill ever since. Just because a Kim Basinger look-a-like named Eve walked by in her birthday suit, he didn’t have to slobber all over himself and beg to take a bite – of the apple, that is!
It goes on for a few more paragraphs after that. This “definition” pretty much refers to Adam as “the first wimp”. The argument? Instead of refusing to take a bite of the apple, he fell for Eve’s looks and did as she said. An out-of-the-box thesis but nevertheless it does go on to make an interesting point: men shouldn’t drop to the floor and kiss the toes of every woman they see. Now granted Eve was the only woman in the world at the time and I’m certain God had a “Don’t Fuck the Animals” policy in the Garden but still, an important statement to keep in mind when dealing with women. Quite humorous, too.
Actually you know what? “Dictionary” isn’t a suitable label for this book. Doc Love expects anyone reading it to start from the beginning and work their way through, understanding each term written within. It’s more like an instruction manual of sorts, giving elaborate details on random relationship-related words and ways to apply them to meeting women. The front cover states “WHY DOES A WOMAN CHOOSE TO STAY WITH ONE MAN VERSUS ANOTHER?” This is a manual – a guide to the type of man that women prefer to be with. Or at least according to Doc Love.
Before each term, Doc Love gives three quotes from who I assume are his relatives from distant lands. Let’s see, we’ve got Fast Eddie Love, Sal “The Fish” Love, General Love, and Rabbi Love (there are plenty more but those ones stick out). There are even some Chinese proverbs, all of which have their sentences ending in “Grasshopper”, and some Apache proverbs which use no articles and implement a few Native American-sounding words. Somehow I can’t picture Jackie Chan saying something like, “Take two oxen to pull a wagon, Grasshopper”, but who am I to question a man whose entire family is named “Love”?
Now the way this book interprets the human psyche is through a measurement called “Interest Level”, which is half mathematical and half mental. To sum it up, Interest Level is the level of interest a woman has for a man and vice-versa, so if I were to walk up to a woman I’ve never met and she immediately high-tailed it to Cuba, that would probably be considered low Interest Level. Doc Love asks men to focus heavily on the woman’s IL, and the way to do that is through the words she says, the actions she makes, and her attitude in doing so. He also tells men to make sure their IL is lower than the woman’s, or at least seems like it, so that the woman can attempt to bring it up. It’s an unorthodox method, but there is purpose in it. See, in doc’s perspective it’s the woman that should be opening up to the man to enhance the relationship, not the other way around. He argues that the man groveling in front of the woman and pouring his emotions out is wrong, and it makes the woman lose respect for him. That means all those sappy soap operas with the men bawling on his knees before a woman give us the wrong example. Hell, I’m sure everyone knows that already. Right? …Right?
In no way does this book feel chauvinistic at all. There is genuine respect for both parties and Doc Love even believes women can use the book to gauge the status of her own relationship. The only real put down of women he uses is the term “Feministas”. Not feminists, Feministas. It’s a more romantic term that refers to feminists that believe their kind is truly the superior one. The term is used throughout the book and the doc isn’t afraid to sugarcoat it. On the other end, this guy isn’t afraid to get hard on men. He berates the ones that disobey his System and reiterates several times that the only way to win with the ladies is to read his book until it’s implanted in the mind. This is either encouragement to make their purchase of this book feel justified, motivation to keep reading, or both.
So we have Interest Level, strange proverbs, and nasty Feministas. We also have Cary Grant movies, left-wing extremist bashing, and flushing bad numbers down the toilet. What else does The System have to offer? Well another interesting and crucial tidbit to this book is the use of “Challenge”. This, according to Doc, is what women really want. It’s the almighty strength of the male and it gets a whopping three pages of discussion in this book. But what is it exactly? There’s probably a more concrete definition in the book but to define it myself: it’s holding back just enough, purposely staying aloof and appearing distant.
The purpose of Challenge is to get the woman to think about the man. To paraphrase from the book: when the man doesn’t call her in a week and she’s anticipating a call, she starts thinking about him more. That’s if she truly likes him. If she doesn’t, she forgets about him and the man saves himself for a woman that will actually contain interest.
Quote
“Challenge is like money in the bank that works for you while you are asleep – it grows.”
Out of everything mentioned in this book, this concept of Challenge stuck out to me the most. It was the first time I’d seen such a tactic mentioned and it got me to thinking: When my relationships were working, was I doing this? And in what forms was I doing this? At that point, my Interest Level in The System was in the 90s.
As I said there are 200 pages in this book so I can’t mention everything in this analysis (at least not without typing out the whole damn book I think). But long story short, The System was one of the most intriguing dollar books I’d ever picked up, and I’d be damned if it didn’t get me thinking. In fact, it got me interested in this Doc Love character. Google tells me he’s one of the more famous and widely recognized love doctors out there. His writing is used on different websites and his book, which is actually valued at $100 on his website, has been in circulation for a long time.
Wait a second…$100? For this? I mean it is rather introspective but come on! That’s the price of a school textbook! I’m pretty sure dating books don’t go for that much on Amazon. Actually, how much do they go for? One sec…let’s see, “dating”, sort by “High to Low”…what?! WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?!
Luckily there is another way to get your Doc Love fix. He’s a frequently scheduled guest on a national radio show where he gets guys from all over the country to call in and ask for advice. Hearing his voice gives off the impression of the stern father we all had when growing up. It’s not soothing, but it’s not demeaning. He’s both critical and encouraging when it comes to his listeners and he’s not afraid to flat out say, “You messed up.” He’ll also find some examples of people who use and do not use his System, whether they know it or not. I’m sure if he ever heard “Grenade” by Bruno Mars he’d smash some cans about.
To conclude, if you men want to get better with women, you guys need to step your game up. I’m not going to tell you to shell out a Franklin to get this thing unless you want to (yeah, I wish it was cheaper too, but what can you really do about it?) but I will say it’s worth reading a few of Doc Love’s columns and listening to his show. He’s not perfect, and he does admit that, but I believe he’s onto something here and should probably be taken into consideration when it comes to improving your pickup skills. Or hey, maybe you’ll find his book at your own thrift shop! In fact, I’m declaring today “International Thrift Shop Day”. Each and every one of you must go into a thrift shop and buy something to celebrate the occasion.
No seriously, this is awesome! $100 worth of book! And for only a dollar! Nothing could be better than this!
Oh…uh…